"Mistakes will be made, others will be blamed!"
Who or What is to Blame?
Fear and guilt as motivators
We should all easily see that fear and guilt are powerful motivators, and that
those hawking products and services on television use a fair amount of these.
What is also true is that these are the time honored tools of evangelists,
preachers and proselytizers.
Virtually every Christian denomination and sect lays a burden of guilt upon its
members, some a very heavy burden. Under this widespread approach we are made to
feel guilty for our ego problems and all the attendant behavior that we use as
coping mechanisms. Of course, we are made to feel guilty about our erotic
dimension, and this can be VERY powerful and destructive. Some even go so far as
to make one guilty–in the eyes of the ever watching "Lord"–of eating between
meals, dressing in a displeasing manner, and even thoughts that come unbidden,
etc., ad nauseam. This burden of guilt is ever SO VERY WRONG and shameful for
the promulgators, yet Christendom thrives on this and the panacea of the patient
"gracious forgiveness" of the "Lord". What a disingenuous game!
Likewise, generally, Christian denominations and sects lay a burden of fear upon
their members. This comes in proposed forms ranging from being burned in
hellfire for all eternity, to being burned rather quickly, to suffering various
lengths of time in purgatory, to just not being resurrected, just being left out
for all eternity. I can remember as a child being bothered by the latter more
than being burned alive.
Many times we get busy blaming ourselves when we ought to be busy understanding
ourselves. How can anyone think that they are intrinsically evil, and that this
personal evil causes their bad behavior. We do things because of causes from
concepts and beliefs, not the least of which are the values with which we were programmed,
especially those things that we believe.
What should be clear is that no one signed up for being born into this world. If
you believe otherwise, nothing much on this site will make sense to you.
What should be equally clear is that until a child begins to develop the
dimension of volition, he is just and only the product of things outside of
himself or his control, things that he can't possibly be held liable for blame.
Why do we blame ourselves for so much of which we cannot legitimately do so?
We can begin to develop the answer by looking at the patterns that have been
discovered by the science of psychology, whereby children develop a number of
destructive syndromes of blaming themselves for the destructive behavior of the
parents. The most stark is the famous Stockholm syndrome, but there are several
others such as Child of Alcoholic parent, Child of Divorced parent, Child of
Absent parent, and even the Firstborn Syndrome. In all of these syndromes the children
take on unwarranted guilt and/or responsibility for that which they were in no way the cause.
The thinking that is consistent with this site is that our forefathers had
two very destructive reactions to the almost utter destruction caused by the "great
catastrophe". Rather than blaming it on their own spiritual irresponsibility, they blamed
God for visiting such a terrible event upon them–an unforgivable thing to do
from a truly divine being–but then turned around and excused God for being
angry because of their own failures and excesses at the time. They totally
bought into the syndrome of their inferiority and their own guilt.
The toxic psychological miasma of that major posture taken by the ancients is still
contaminating us today, as it is a significant part of every culture and religion.
Christianity teaches that "we are born into sin". It IS true that we are
born into this syndrome of blaming ourselves. Probably for everyone of us when
something goes wrong, we do a quick gut-check to see if we are at least partly
to blame. All of this is so wrongheaded and counter productive for being genuine and
having good psychological and spiritual health.
What can God legitimately blame us for? There are only two things for which we
can be blamed, and these now only because we have had a demonstration of what
God is like. This is why he said that if he had not come and shown them, they would have an excuse
for their sin (misunderstanding God).
It is clear that the J-person blamed people for only two things, hypocrisy and
not waking up and listening to him.